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Hey Ya'll,
How bout them Dolphins??(Birdcage joke)
Right, so there was a recent post about non-monogamous relations. Are they good are they bad, etc. Well, as a registered Libertarian, I believe that what you do behind closed doors is your business. Do what thou will, which applies to almost anything, sex, guns, drugs etc. As long as you don't harm anyone else or expect taxpayer dollars to cover expenses for non-essential things.Since I was a middle schooler, I had heard rumors of a coming age where traditional relations including heterosexuality and monogamy would no longer reign supreme. I have experimented with non-monogamous relations, bisexuality and being what the young people call 'non-binary' or 'gender-fluid.' After many trying experiences with self exploration I realized what I was really looking for was self respect and confidence. I didn't find these things with a name, or new gender identity or with multiple sex partners. I found myself with education, science and philosophy. I also found myself through seeking to be more self reliant and although some of this is still a work in progress I do feel much more secure in myself. The late Earl Nightengale said it best when he defined success as the "Progressive realization of a worthy goal or ideal."How does all of this relate to non-monogamous relationships, you may wonder. I realized that when I was seeking a new identity or a new lover or multiple lovers what I really wanted was to escape from myself. I didn't like who I was, so by having alternate (often male) identities or by taking new partners I was able to escape from the real 'me' and pretend to be someone else.
Ironically, the new identity was always a hallow shell and the lovers caught on really fast that I was a fraud. What I was really looking for was personal value and purpose in life. I found and I continue to find these things in myself the more I develop hard skills and the more I become a dependable and trustworthy member of society. I think we sell ourselves short when we define ourselves mainly by who we sleep with or what parts we have or don't have. Just like we sell our selves short when we define ourselves by our age or physical beauty. I am grateful that we live in a time and place when people young and old feel like they can express themselves more freely, which includes being polyamorous should you choose to indulge. In my case I didn't find what I was looking for in such things. Having multiple partners only lead to more confusion. Regardless, I hope for everyone that you find a way to be comfortable in your own skin and really learn to love and appreciate who you are. How you go about achieving this will be different for everyone and I wish you the very best on that journey.